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  • Gertrude Lyons

    Dr. Gertrude Lyons, CEO and founder of Rewrite the Mother Code, LLC, supports people to create a personally fulfilling and nourishing mothering experience through coaching, speaking, retreats, and her podcast Mot(HER). She and her husband raised their two daughters ages 26 and 24 in Andersonville and has been a member of NPN since 1998.

    We're nearly a year into the pandemic. Now what?

    Whatever comes of the election and the intense holiday season, there will certainly be additional tension at the start of the year for all families.


    Photo by Edwin Hooper

    It is November 1, 2020, as I write this article. You will be reading this in Winter 2021. So much will happen between today and the new year: the election (pause and breathe), Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Christmas, and New Year’s. That is a lot to take in under normal circumstances, but this year, none of it will be exactly normal. Whatever comes of the election and the intense holiday season, there will certainly be additional tension at the start of the year for all families.

    [Related: Self-care during Covid: Creating your own pandemic slow-down]

    The following is a list of possible scenarios for processing the holidays. Pick the one that most closely resembles your experience, and then match that scenario with thoughts about the new year.

    A. Your candidate won the election and your whole, extended family was in agreement and celebrated. This excitement wove its way seamlessly into your holidays and everyone agreed on a safe plan for a socially distant celebration of all the holidays (every holiday was celebrated because of your culturally diverse family that blends and honors all the holidays equally). Despite the uncertainty of what lies ahead in 2021, you feel so nourished by your time with family and friends that you sprang into the New Year full of hope and possibilities of this new frontier.

    B. Your candidate lost the election. You felt alone in your family of “other candidate” supporters and had to spend a decent amount of time through the holidays listening to their gloating, while you are terrified for what is to come of our country over the next four years. Some members of the family think COVID is a hoax, while others haven’t left their house since March because they are so scared. It was so disappointing not to have the annual all-family holiday gathering that each family did their own thing and never connected as a big group. You feel defeated and hopeless going into 2021

    C. You got through it.

    Is choice “A” even possible? Is some version of choice “B” inevitable? Is choice “C” pretty darn likely?

    [Related: From slow to go! Balancing life post-pandemic.]

    The reality is, there is truth and possibility in all three. And whether one of these was close to your actual experience or not, we will all have had aspects of all of them and a season like no other we could have imagined. Good for us! That’s right: I said, good for us!

    Now is when we really need to celebrate: our fortitude, our resilience, our creativity in difficult situations that brought bits of normalcy and spirit into chaos. In addition to celebrating, here are a few ways you can take your lived experience of 2020 — the good, the bad and the ugly — and use it to make a positive difference in how you experience 2021:

    Make a list of challenges you faced this past year and how you dealt with them. If you didn’t like how you handled some of them, what can you do differently when something similar arises this year? Be ready!

    Let your feelings flow. If you are like most of us, you’ve been holding your breath to get through it, only to realize there is no getting through. Share with a loved one your authentic fears, hopes, dreams for this year.

    It is never too late to have a joyful holiday! Bring as much of the true spirit of the holidays into the new year as we can: generosity of spirit, goodwill, beauty, light in the darkness, charity, and lots of hope.



    Gertrude Lyons

    Dr. Gertrude Lyons, CEO and founder of Rewrite the Mother Code, LLC, supports people to create a personally fulfilling and nourishing mothering experience through coaching, speaking, retreats, and her podcast Mot(HER). She and her husband raised their two daughters ages 26 and 24 in Andersonville and has been a member of NPN since 1998.




    Edited by NPN Lauren


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