Saying Goodbye to Your Beloved Nanny

Written by: Karla Issa

A transition such as replacing a nanny is difficult to say the least. Whether the change is coming from your end or hers; the conversation is never easy to begin and certainly never painless to deal with.  A lot of questions go through a parent’s mind at this time such as “How will I replace her?”, “How will I tell the children?”, or “Can I find her another family?”. 

The thing you always want to remember amid these questions is that unfortunately, nanny situations are never permanent. At some point during your children’s childhood and adolescence, there will have to be a change. That could arise from employment situations changing within the family, or nannies just needing to move on for their own reasons. Communication is always the best tool you have when you find yourself being involved in the conversation about ending the day-to-day nanny & family relationship.

If you are in the position where you are needing to let your nanny go for reasons outside of her performance let her know that you would like to set a special time to sit down with her to discuss your situation. Make this a time where your kids can be occupied with a movie or some other activity so that this conversation can go uninterrupted.

If you find yourself in this conversation from the nanny’s side hear where she is coming from. Sometimes the employment period may only be for a year or two and the time will come when she is pursuing other career choices or education. Despite this being a transition, be supportive of what she has coming. A great nanny & family relationship will never end when your nanny stops coming every day. It will just shift from being a work situation to a wonderful friendship for you and your children in the future.

On the other hand, some families find themselves employing nannies that regularly plan to stay a maximum of a year or two and then they are expected to move on. This typically happens with nannies who are still in school and are taking care of children while they pursue their education. When you become used to a nanny transition taking place every year or two you should make sure that you and your children don’t become desensitized to the experience. Again, great nannies often become part of the family and the frequency of them coming and going doesn’t necessarily make this easy. Make sure to take the time to express how much they mean to you. It is important to also make sure your children appreciate each nanny they have.

Hopefully the nanny transition can become a little bit easier when you try to remember that this is not always the end. Plan a time for her to come back and babysit the children in the near future or plan a Saturday lunch to catch up with her. Everyone involved will always appreciate the willingness to maintain this special bond for a long time to come. 

Posted on August 06, 2012 at 2:04 PM