Author - Karen Jacobson

Karen

Karen Jacobson, MA, LCPC, LMFT, is  a family therapist and co-founder of PARENTING PERSPECTIVES  which provides individual, couple and family therapy, parent workshops, parent coaching and other services designed to support parents and create healthy families. She is a mom to two boys and has been a member of NPN since 2003.  Her practice is in Lincoln Park.  Learn more at www.parentingperspectives.com  or 312-330-3194.

Positive Parenting: Getting On the Same Page

When my children were younger and I was a stay at home mom, my husband worked long hours.  Every morning, he would kiss the boys goodbye and lovingly say, “Be good for Mommy.”  Then he was off, returning after bedtime.  For him, his exit was helpful and thoughtful.  For me, his words were like nails on a chalkboard. A million thoughts would run through my mind: “What did ’be good for Mommy’ mean?” “Wasn’t it unrealistic to think that little boys could be ’good’ all day?” “Was he telling th...

Posted on March 21, 2014 at 8:00 AM by Karen Jacobson

Dealing with Anger

Ever wanted to say, “Stop screaming!” or  "Just get over it!” to your angry child?  Angry outbursts, temper tantrums, mean words, aggression, refusing to comply, back talk, and the silent treatment can really push parents’ buttons.  One of our greatest challenges and responsibilities is to teach children ways to manage their anger appropriately and develop the necessary coping skills.

Guidelines:


Remain calm.  Feeling angry is okay.  Your anger will automatically escalate your ...

Posted on October 17, 2012 at 8:00 AM by Karen Jacobson

Beyond Manners: Teaching Children Respect

Back talk, lack of manners, name calling, rude behavior and being demanding are commonplace. Teaching children respect and manners is essential; learning to live and behave respectfully translates into self–respect, the building block of self-esteem.

Give respect:

To receive respect from children, parents must respect them. Children learn to treat themselves and others from how they are treated.

Model respect and manners:

Children watch and listen to their parents. Someone ...

Posted on January 09, 2012 at 6:00 AM by Karen Jacobson

Decoding Your Child's Behavior

It was the first week of school.  On the playground, a 6 year old was going down the slide with other boys his age.  As he waited in line, another child approached, suddenly grabbed his arm and pinched him.  The pincher's mom jumped into action, apologizing and explaining that her son had never acted like this before.  I sat wondering about the incident.  "Why had he pinched?"  "Was he angry at the boy?" "Afraid losing his place in line?" "Did the other boy say something or get too close?"...

Posted on October 20, 2011 at 6:34 AM by Karen Jacobson

Some Parenting Perspective- Getting on the Same Page

When my children were younger and I was a stay at home mom, my husband worked long hours.  Every morning, he would kiss the boys goodbye and lovingly say, “Be good for Mommy.”  Then he was off, returning after bedtime.  For him, his exit was helpful and thoughtful.  For me, his words were like nails on a chalkboard. A million thoughts would run through my mind: “What did ’be good for Mommy’ mean?” “Wasn’t it unrealistic to think that little boys could be ’good’ all day?” “Was he telling th...

Posted on September 16, 2011 at 6:57 AM by Karen Jacobson